Who needs consistency?

Websters defines Consistency as:   harmony of conduct or practice.

Why is consistency important?  Thats a very valid question.  It's also a very important question.  Consistency in my efforts provides me with a chance to have the same thoughts and feelings.  Consistency allows me to have the same behaviors, most times.  Consistency allows me to consider things in a more calm and reasoned state.

Most importantly, consistency allows the world and its people to know exactly who and what they're getting from me in every interaction.  Why is this important?  It has been pointed out to me that relationships are the glue that holds the world together.  If this is true, isn't it nice to know that the people we interact with most are usually consistent in their behaviors?  Let's assume this is true and let's assume that we are at work, and we know that Suzie is very sweet and kind, but she has a competency issue.  This allows me to know how to interact with her.  She‘s consistently sweet and kind, so we go to Suzie when we need sweetness and kindness  And we have a coworker named Ted, Ted is a "type-A' hard charging guy with no filter and at his very best he's ok to be around but only if his sales are good.  Now Ted creates a different dynamic.  Unless Ted has some power or sway over our future most of us stay away from Ted unless we can see he just got the new sale and is happy for the moment.  

Now let's makes this scenario a little closer to home.  Let's assume that we are married and every day when I come home to my wife and kids that I am unable to regulate my emotions from the day and my mood from work spills out onto my family every time I walk in the door.  Who is going to want to be with me?  The answer is very few people.  To hear the door open and never have a clue who is going to walk through in the longer term is petrifying.  

I'm going to explain how some of these things manifest themselves in me.  I am normally battling with some sort of selfishness, internal dishonesty, resentment, or fear, and unless I do something to mitigate these things I have the ability and unbelievable capacity to turn what is a great gift from God, into a tragedy.

Let's assume for a minute that I haven't done any of my spiritual practices in a very long time.  Let's assume that as the stakes have gotten larger, either at work or at home, that I haven't matched those escalations with more spiritual help.  I have very near-term practical experience what happens, I become something of a walking time bomb looking for a place to explode.  I have very little gratitude for this wonderful gift that has been given to me freely, I then look at it is an entitlement, and then I look at it from a position of self and then it blows up.  Because nobody with any "health" will tolerate that for very long.

So, in order to maintain healthy relationships, it's important for me to keep the spiritual practices consistent and ever increasing so that my behaviors and reactions to things will be the same.  Because if I am trying to be better, I want everyone I interact with to have the same positive reaction to me every single time.  

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

-Maya Angelou

If the quote above is true, and I believe that it is.  Why would we ever want to make someone feel differently with each interaction?